Friday, February 8, 2013

Dear DH...

Dear Dh,
I have not been feeling the same love towards you as I have in the past, and it is thanks to your evil mother.  She has been trying to break up our marriage ever since we got married.  From all the negative comments about our wedding, to the "honestly I know you're headed to divorce" comments and then to the "you're not good enough for my son" remarks.

Lately your evil mother has been a pain in our butts, she has been causing so much drama and headache.  I do not understand why you don't see this?? She calls me drunk and then tells me how she doesn't like me, how I'm not good enough for you, how my child doesn't look like me because I cannot have children naturally, or how my son is her son and you are her lover!

It is very hard to separate that she is a bitch and that you aren't making her say those evil words! BUT when you tell me that I should just squash it and just be nice to her or that she's dumb and drunk and has no idea what she is doing, that makes me so very upset! it hurts my feelings that you can't stand up for your family!! Lil M and I are your family now.. I understand that she is your evil mother, but seriously, I think it's time to cut the chord!! Your relationship with her isn't a healthy one, she is trying to split up our marriage, she wants you to move away from me! She says mean things about me, things that you can never forget!! 

How can you defend your evil mother when she is so mean to me? How can you not see how that is unhealthy? My entire family is sooo nice to you! They help us out when you are drinking out at the bars and pick you up late at night so you don't have to drink and drive and get a DUI, they always surprise you with wonderful fathers day, birthday, and xmas gifts.  My family listens to you and knows what you like and loves to make you happy!! Our fabulous first family trip, my family helped us out so much!! Taking care of Lil M, treating you to surf lessons, treating you to many meals... I mean, that is what a family does! They DO NOT and should NEVER treat everyone with disrespect and negativity! My family would never say a negative word about you or your family! Then there's your evil mother who says so many negative things .... I mean does she realize how hurtful it is? Does she care? Or maybe she just expects everyone to just accept that she's a mean drama queen lying bitch?  How am I supposed to feel? How can I ever get over the mean and hurtful things she has said?


You know I have spent multiple hours on the phone with that bitch when she was drunk, sober or just in an emotional spiral! I tried really hard to include her in everything, was super nice to her, and then in return? Telling me that my son doesn't look like me cause I had to do IVF??? Calling my sister and talking crap about my entire family? Texting me mean things about how you're going to be leaving me and were going to get a divorce?? AND PLEASE if you comment again and say that she's not far from the truth or tell me that you are better than me, I am going to freaking kick your ass!! I hate that you always think her comments are funny! You know everyone said that once we got married you changed for the better!! I taught you to be more cultured and have manners!! things your evil mother didn't teach you! I taught you family values! I mean I understand  you grew up without a dad and with a drunk mother.. who was drunk and would be walking around the streets naked cause she was that drunk.. and who cheated on your dad with your baseball coaches multiple times.. but come one!! I am and WILL NEVER be like that!!  

It is not normal for a mother to tell her son how much she thinks he should move away from his wife and son! it is not healthy relationship for a mother to call her son 10 times a day and leaving messages saying to call her back asap!! i mean, i don't even do that to you!! I figure I'll see you when I see you!! 

I believe we need to put a huge distance between us and your mother! To save our marriage and to save our family! She has only caused drama, fights, and negative vibes in our household! She has done nothing positive for us! She only complains about me, and talks crap about me! She then has to say that she had a miscarriage because she wanted your sympathy when I was going through my ectopic and having to get my tubes ligated!! I mean ... come on? Everytime she wants your attention, she fakes a medical issue, diabetes, abnormal blood work, and breast cancer... WHO FAKES BREAST CANCER? 

Well Dh.. I love you but I don't like you right now!! I wish you could just sit down and stop yelling at me when I try to talk to you rationally about the situation!! Stop telling me to "shut my fat mouth" or "shut up you pig" it's rude and dis-tasteful!! And especially stop yelling at Lil M in the middle of the night when he wakes up! telling your 13 month old son "shut the fuck up" or "shut up" or "come on lil m can't you just shut up now it's quiet time" or "daddy is sleeping please just be quiet"

that's rude and mean.. he's just an innocent little baby.. no wonder why he never wants to hang out with yoUu! and that is why I will never let you be with him alone! you have no patience for him and you only say you love him cause you're trying to compete with my love!!

We are looking forward to the 3 1/2 weeks of peace and quiet when you to to Europe by yourself! And remember this.. you are NEVER better than me!! you were never better than me! I have lots of friends surrounding me and supporting me, you.. always have to go golfing by yourself, bowling by yourself, and to Europe by yourself because no one wants to hang out with you!! If you do go golfing with your brother, you have to pay for him and then you have to buy him food and other things..

Think about that!! 

I have no idea why our relationship is a hot mess right now, but I am very upset!! I wish you could wake up and smell the roses! See that the grass is greener on the other side and see that your evil mother is only causing pain! Please.. think about this.... you should just cut her out for us! for our family








12 comments:

  1. Woah. Hun - I am very angry with both your DH and is mother right now. But mainly, with your DH. I do not want to be disrespectful in any way but it sounds like you need to do some serious thinking about this relationship is good for both you and Lil M. I wish you the best of luck and, in the end, a lifetime of happiness. xxx

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    1. Thank you lovely!! I am totally in the "thinking" stage as of now.. trying to see what is best for Lil M and myself.. it is just so hard :( xoxo

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  2. Hey, it's LiberalGranola from Twitter. The way that he is treating you and your son is not okay at all...it's a form of abuse. Right now I wish that I could punch him (yeah, I know that's violent and not productive). Also, his mom sounds like a piece of work.

    You and your son deserve all the happiness in the world and I hope that y'all get it, with or without your DH. *hugs*

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    1. thanks lovely!! i am thinking of options on what to do... it's so tough :(

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  3. I can't believe your MIL is such an evil! I really can't! I lost words to all the mean things she tells you. DH is after all, "her" son. Obviously he can't completely takes your side or he doesn't have courage to take your side over the evil mother!? I feel so bad that you have to go through this with him, but trying to have a happy face when you are with lil M. Lately I feel lots of disconnection with dh also. Seems like we argue every week on our days off and im always crying. Sometimes we have babies in our arm and find ourselves arguing, which is not healthy. I realize we as mom has a lot more patient than husbands. Especially, going through IVF, doing lots of drugs into our body,,, to conceive our miracles. It seems we grew up and somewhat left dh behind. Stay strong for the lil M. Ignore all the mistreatment by MIL. It's easier to be said than done but Im rooting for you!!

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    1. Oh no, I am so sorry you and your DH are having issues at home too! It makes life so much tougher now with the babes. DH wasn't always this bad.. I don't understand why he is treating us so badly :( Thanks for being here for me xxo

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  4. Hey. This is @RachHasHope from twitter. Your husband is being verbally and mentally abusive towards you and your child. You need to get away from him if for no other reason that to protect M. His behavior is not okay and you do not have to accept it. ((Hugs))

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    1. Thank you for the hugs :) I am doing my best to protect m, we aren't home too often, and hang out w my mom and sister so m gets all the love and attention that he wants :)

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  5. Wow. No words. Just so sorry you are going through this.

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  6. Excuse my reaction, but HOLY CRAP. I am sorry to hear what you're dealing with. You are a great person & Mommy. Please know you don't deserve this treatment, no one does.

    I will be praying for you and your situation. *Hugs*

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    1. thank you for the kind words and the hugs!! were hanging in there! xox

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